Affirm Yo’ Self

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by Stephanie Rochelle Redd

As I was dreaming up this post, I could hear Parks and Recreation’s Donna and Tom exclaim, from within a luxury retailer dressing room, “Treat yo’ self…to an affirmation!” While I can hear and heed this imaginative advice today, prior to 2013, I couldn’t have imagined it nor did I have any idea what an affirmation was.

That year was a huge turning point in my life. I turned 30. I turned into an author and life coach. And I turned my Christian upbringing on its ear by turning my attention to a trio of celebrated New Thought teachers: Alan Cohen, Doreen Virtue, and Louise Hay.

Well, they weren’t celebrated by me – not at the beginning of that year, anyway – because I really didn’t know who they were. But honey, by year’s end, what I didn’t know was how I had made it that far in life without them.

Alan taught me the essence of God and the metaphysical quintessence of Jesus Christ. Doreen taught me that I wasn’t crazy for believing in signs, angels and other mystical and ‘mythical’ beings. And Louise, well, Louise taught me love.

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In the Bible, God the Father and God the Son are noted several times as commanding those who believe to “love your neighbor as you love yourself“. As one who believed church to be a second home – as I was there all the time – I heard this commandment all the time as well.

But that doesn’t mean I followed it, and I didn’t, to be honest. I went to church religiously and was just as spiteful and unforgiving as I wanted to be. I tried to be nice to people and, really, I was – and am – a nice person. Nevertheless, despite my nicest efforts along with those times when I didn’t give a flying effort, there were just some “neighbors” who I believed were just too hard for me to love.

And so, because I couldn’t locate the loophole to this ‘impossible’ command to love, I eventually left the idea of church at the open door in hopes of opening a window to a world where love was always on my side.

Ha!

What I actually walked into was a brick wall of self-loathing, which was illuminated by my lack of self-love. Enter Louise…

“If you have had experiences in your life that are not comfortable, on some level, they’re mirrors of you. We don’t always like to hear that, but everything in our life is a mirror of us. So if something’s happening out there that’s not comfortable, we have to look inside and say ‘How are we creating it?’ ‘What is it about me or what is it within me that believes that I deserve this experience?’ ‘Cause otherwise, we wouldn’t bring it to us. So, perhaps, I would say a little more loving yourself would help because when you get that flowing, you won’t bring in uncomfortable experiences.”

~Louise Hay on “Receiving Prosperity”

In my errant search for a loophole to Universal love, I stumbled upon the wisdom of Louise Hay and was thrown for a loop. When I finally came to, I saw that the bitterness I felt toward my ‘unloveable’ neighbors was really just a reflection of how bitterly I viewed myself. Moreover, I learned that my lack of love for others was in direct response to a lack of love within me for me.

Well, in the years since first stepping foot into Alan’s, Doreen’s, and Louise’s classrooms, I’ve had plenty of occasions to put this theory to the test. Upon concluding each experiment, I’ve confirmed that while it can be trippy, it’s always true: Only love for ourselves equals love for others, not vice versa.

This consistent result has since resulted in my constant use of affirmations–a domain in which many ‘New Thinkers’ deem Louise its queen. Though I, too, hold Louise in this high regard, I admittedly regard my paraphrased version of Alan’s definition of an affirmation as my favorite:

An affirmation is a statement about yourself that just reminds you of who you are.

In other words, an affirmation isn’t aspirational, it’s actual. Of course, an affirmation that states “I spend money wisely…I always have what I need” can seem a little far-fetched when we seem to have only a little amount of money to spend. But if we can suspend our belief in what we seem to see long enough to really remember that the Source of our abundance is infinite and owns “the cattle on a thousand hills“, then we will really start to see that abundance materialize in our lives. (Amen to that.)

And amen to the teachings of Alan, Doreen, and Louise, which have all had such profound impacts on my life. As good teachers do, their teachings have also taught me to prize the profundity within. So, I bring this post to a close with five of my personal affirmations that I use to remind me of who I am.

1. “I am a sexual being. I fully embrace and express my sexuality in ways that are fully aligned with my Higher self. I am free from sexual guilt and shame. My sexuality is a gift from God and I love, cherish and enjoy my God-given sexuality. And so it is, in Jesus’s name, amen💖”

2. “I am abundant in all areas of my life. I trust God easily and follow where He leads me. I fully trust God to take care of me, my finances, my material needs and wants. I am rich in love, peace, beauty, and emotional strength. And so it is, in Jesus’s name, amen💖”

3. “I am healed. My mind and my body are at ease. I am free from all distressing thoughts and my body is free from all forms of distress. I love my body and my body loves me back. I love my mind and my mind loves me back. My mind and my body are united as one in love. And so it is, in Jesus’s name, amen💖”

4. “I am whole. I lack nothing. Everything that God says I am, I am. Everything that God has for me is mine. I am a child of the King. Only good is my inheritance. I walk in God’s goodness now and I see it everywhere I go. And so it is, in Jesus’s name, amen💖”

5. “I am pure and as innocent as the day I was born. My purity is not earned, it is already mine. I am light in the darkness. I am warmth in the coldness. I am love in the midst of fear. I am kindred with God. I bless others and receive others’ blessings. And so it is, in Jesus’s name, amen💖”

 

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Food–it’s an honor

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by Stephanie Rochelle Redd

Not to brag, but my vehicle is a high-quality brand. I noted this again the other day as I pulled into my favorite gas station – i.e. the cheapest gas station nearest me – to fill up my tank.

While I am price-conscious, I am also conscious of valuing value. That’s why, despite my high interest in low prices, I still fill up my gas tank with the highest grade of fuel.

Nowadays, I hold the same high-grade philosophy toward my body’s fuel–food. However, this wasn’t always the case. It took the Divine, numerous times, to intervene and direct my dining habits Higher.

Some people have prayer closets in which they seek God’s voice; I have prayer cards, two decks, in fact.

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The two cards on the left are part of Doreen Virtue’s “Magical Messages from the Fairies Oracle Cards” deck and the one on the right is from her “Angel Therapy Oracle Cards”.

In any case, all three cards gave me a mighty fright when I began pulling them repeatedly about two years ago.

“NOOOOOOOOO!!!”

That was my repeated response to their Higher guidance.

In a past decade, I was a vegetarian for approximately six years. Moreover, I was a well-intentioned but naïve college student for much of said decade; so, suffice to say, I was a naïve vegetarian as well.

Potato chips? Check.
French fries? Check.
Refined sweets and cheese galore? Double check.
Actual fruits, vegetables, and whole grains that didn’t come in aluminum, plastic, or Styrofoam containers? (((Crickets)))

Not only was my view of vegetarianism askew, but my health, as a result, was too. Therefore, when I got the Supernatural call to eat on a Higher plane a couple years ago, naturally, my mind revisited my past wayward attempt and I immediately hung up the phone. Not to mention that my intention for originally traveling that wayward way was for a guy. (Please send Gloria Steinem my regrets.)

So, how is it that nearly a decade later I am a happy, informed, feminist, plant-based vegan and have been for 10 months? Well, there are only so many times that you can hang up on God before you begin sensing the threat of a real disconnection–you know what I mean?

After the umpteenth time of receiving the Higher eating-call circa January 2017, I finally answered it in the affirmative. God, through my cards, promised me greater power in my life if I surrendered to His power in my life through my diet, or my “live-it” as I now like to call it.

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Though I accepted the call in one day, I didn’t make the powerful change from flesh to fresh overnight. It took time – a lot of it – blocked into several stages: Pescatarian; vegetarian; junk-food vegan; and finally, plant-based, gluten-free, no-salt vegan.

And I have to tell you that I feel more powerful now than I ever have before. Of course, it’s not my personal power that’s driving me but the power of God vested in me via veggies, fruits and other natural delights, especially the delight of His powerful love coursing through my digestive tract and my heart.

“And He took bread, gave thanks and broke it, and gave it to them, saying, ‘This is My body which is given for you; do this in remembrance of Me.” ~Luke 22:19, NKJV

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