Three books are better in one!

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by Stephanie Rochelle Redd

Fear would have us believe that our flaws are our curses when, in faith, they are the foundation of our callings by which we can bless others and, ultimately, ourselves.

That written, I can’t tell you how many days and nights I cried, how many heavy breaths I sighed, and how many times I berated my brain and heart and beat myself up for being a “Head-Smart/Heart-Dumb Girl”.

English, algebra and social studies–A, A, A.
Dating, relationships and self-love–F, F, F.

I was so F’ing tired of flunking life’s classes on love that I didn’t know what to do. Until one night – prompted by my and a guy’s discourse, which would’ve surely led to me failing another love-course – something within me clicked and I heard myself say:

“You know what? I’m going to write a book. And I’m going to call it, Just Because He Says You’re Beautiful…”

True story.

That was six years ago. Little did I know that that book was just Part 1 of my story. In the time since then, I’ve learned a lot more, which is not to say that I’ve learned it all–hence, Parts 2 and 3.

More Heart-Dumb mistakes? Check.
More excruciating heartache? Check.
More lessons to teach the masses and myself? Double check.

The Apostle Paul was another person who made a lot of mistakes. He caused and suffered his share of disheartening experiences. What’s more, he wrote several books’ worth of lessons to share with the masses. Moreover, Paul shared a personal lesson about the proverbial “thorn” in his side.

“Concerning this thing I pleaded with the Lord three times that it might depart from me.” ~2 Corinthians 12:8, NKJV

What was the Lord’s prescription for Paul’s pain, you ask?

“My grace is sufficient for you, for My strength is made perfect in weakness.” ~2 Corinthians 12:9, NKJV

Ouch.

At first glance, God’s response to Paul may appear more on the side of tough than love. But with a second look, we see that God’s grace not only soothed Paul’s pain, but saved him from his own self-righteousness so that he could rest assured on the righteousness of God–the only One whose righteousness has been cross-tested and Christ-approved.

And guess what? God’s grace and Self-sacrificial righteousness can soothe our thorny issues too. (Even if those “issues” can be transcribed into multiple volumes.)

So, by the grace of God and the goodness of His righteousness, I offer you the ‘thorn in my flesh’ in the form of this book. It contains prickly points I wish I had known sooner, practiced more recently and pray I won’t repeat–again.

Being perfect is one thing; being “perfected” by the love and sacrifice of Jesus Christ is another.

While our thorns may be tenacious and our flaws a fact, I believe in the power of prayer, surrender and the name of Jesus to break every chain over our lives. Thus, I don’t mind being a Head-Smart/Heart-Dumb Girl as long as God says that I am “The Head” Head-Smart/Heart-Dumb Girl and not the tail. (Amen, somebody.)

So, go tell somebody – on the mountain, in the valley or at the summer school nearest you – that there’s hope for the hopeless romantic and help for Head-Smart/Heart-Dumb girls and women everywhere.

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Failure is practice for success

Faith

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by Stephanie Rochelle Redd

In my world, believing is seeing. In other words, I see what is and what is not visible. So, in addition to reading between the lines, I see between them as well. Along the lines of sight-reading my way through life, I’ve performed some pretty tricky numbers that, at the time, appeared to require more skill than I could muster.

For instance, in 2013, I read Spirit’s notes that I should move to Maui, Hawai’i. At the time, I lived in Austin, Texas, and had a job, apartment, car and all the other trappings of adulthood (i.e. bills). As I saw it, I was trapped between an untouchable fantasy and very tangible realities.

But, while I was focused on the responsibilities of ‘reality,’ Spirit showed me that I had a real responsibility to myself–to march to the beat of my own drum and not die with my music still inside. So, I listened to Spirit and my inner-drum beat, and marched toward Maui in July 2014. And by September of that same year, I fled Hawai’i – broke and broken – back to the mainland.

What was THAT about?

Was I wrong in my reading of Spirit’s Hawaiian melody? Or, did Spirit mislead me with the wrong notes? Well, with almost three years of residency on Maui now under my belt, I can see that neither one was the case. I was, in fact, in the right place at the right time to have the exact experiences that I needed to prepare me for my future Hawaii Life. Of course, at that present time, my experiences looked a lot more like failure than preparation.  

“And we know that all things work together for good to those who love God, to those who are called according to His purpose.” ~Romans 8:28, NKJV

I may have fled Hawai’i with a sour taste in my mouth, but not before I learned to cut sugarcane with a machete (“In the jungle, the mighty jungle, the lion sleeps tonight…”). I may have fled Hawai’i with my dreams dashed, but not before I was able to endure the nightmare of spending the night in a public bathroom (The Pursuit of Happyness-style). I may have fled Hawai’i broke and broken, but not before I was able to squeeze a book out of my escapade (Good Erotica for Good Girls—check it out).

What HGTV won’t tell you, but I will, is that it takes a warrior to actually live the Hawaii Life. And while I may not descend from King Kamehameha, I am a child of the King, who also knighted me as a rebel with a uniquely noble cause. Therefore, my failure to make Maui my home in 2014 was merely a test-run to test me and my warrior within.

Truth is, though, my battle is already won. Before the foundations of the world were set, I was pronounced a winner in Christ Jesus, who, with the Father and Spirit, devised a Divine plan to save me from any real defeat. So, even when I’m down, I’m not out. And even when I’m left bitter, disillusioned and penniless, I’m still winning. Though God’s plan for me includes countless cliffhangers – much to my parents’ chagrin – I know that if I keep hanging on I will win, simply, because I’ve already won through Christ.

“I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.” ~Philippians 4:13, NKJV       

 

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Can’t buy me wisdom

Inner-knowing

 

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by Stephanie Rochelle Redd

My apologies, diamonds. Sorry, dogs. Your days as girls’ and man’s respective best friends are over…at least, for those of us who desire a higher quality and pedigree of partnership.

In this ephemeral, microwavable society, it makes sense that we want loyalty that actually lasts. But with people being people, many people have bought into the ideas of having to either buy loyalty through lifetime-guarantees of goods or command it from animals who are trained to be “good boys” and “good girls”.

Now, before you give me the Care Bear Stare, I am a happy consumer with a heart. I just prefer to consume companionship that is freely given and that can see the goodness of my heart without the immediate expectation of a ‘treat’. (Hello, somebody.)

Q: So, where does that leave me?

A: I have a standing date with a free Bible every morning, and I experience the sweet companionship of the Holy Spirit every second, minute and hour of the day.

As a result of all of this holy quality-time, my relationship with God is one that I have grown to love and cherish. The more I learn about Him, the more I want to learn about Him. So, of course, the Bible is a key component in our courtship. And for the past few days, King Solomon has been at the forefront of our conversations.

As the third king of Israel, Solomon holds the distinction of being the wisest person–ever. Hence, it stands to reason that I reason from Solomon’s understanding in my pursuit of better understanding God.

“Do not forsake her, and she will preserve you; love her, and she will keep you. Wisdom is the principle thing; therefore get wisdom. And in all your getting, get understanding. Exalt her, and she will promote you; she will bring you honor, when you embrace her. She will place on your head an ornament of grace; a crown of glory she will deliver to you.” ~ Proverbs 4:6-9, NKJV

First of all, I love how Solomon likens wisdom to a person with purpose and prestige as opposed to a prized possession. Secondly, I love that Solomon assigns wisdom’s personhood a feminine identity. Sure, there are plenty of boats and cars named after women, but Solomon notes that wisdom is a driving force of life, as women truly are.

“The Lord possessed me at the beginning of His way, before His works of old. I have been established from everlasting to everlasting. From the beginning, before there was ever an earth…When He prepared the heavens, I was there, when He drew a circle on the face of the deep, when He established the clouds above, when He strengthened the fountains of the deep, when He assigned the sea its limit, so the waters would not transgress His command, when He marked out the foundations of the earth, then I was beside Him as a master craftsman; and I was daily His delight, rejoicing always before Him, rejoicing in His inhabited world, and my delight was with the sons of men.” ~Proverbs 8:22-23, 27-31, NKJV

Well.

It seems that God and wisdom are a match made in heaven–literally. And as their earthling-offspring, we can certainly revel in their ethereal romance if we attune our ethereal ears to wisdom’s Divinely Feminine frequency and act on her messages with faith in God the Father.

“The way of the Lord is strength for the upright, but destruction will come to the workers of iniquity.” ~Proverbs 10:29, NKJV

So, maybe we’ve never experienced afternoon showers of fire and brimstone, but you and I have surely been burned by our choices to take routes that differ from those suggested by our internal GPS. If you’re as hardheaded and Heart-Dumb as I can be, then you too saw the “Wrong Way,” “Do Not Enter” and “Dead End” signs on your ignorant journeys and blissfully passed them by as well.

“Whoever loves instruction loves knowledge, but he who hates correction is stupid.” ~Proverbs 12:1, NKJV

Yes, Solomon called us stupid. Yet, as we continue reading his sagacious soliloquy, we can also see that Solomon is calling us Higher–to “a higher quality and pedigree of [life] partnership,” if you will. I don’t know about you, but I want to go Higher. Commodities are pretty and pets are cute, but I want to partner with life on a Heavenly level wherein wisdom is my constant companion and my faith in God my confidant.

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Affirm Yo’ Self

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by Stephanie Rochelle Redd

As I was dreaming up this post, I could hear Parks and Recreation’s Donna and Tom exclaim, from within a luxury retailer dressing room, “Treat yo’ self…to an affirmation!” While I can hear and heed this imaginative advice today, prior to 2013, I couldn’t have imagined it nor did I have any idea what an affirmation was.

That year was a huge turning point in my life. I turned 30. I turned into an author and life coach. And I turned my Christian upbringing on its ear by turning my attention to a trio of celebrated New Thought teachers: Alan Cohen, Doreen Virtue, and Louise Hay.

Well, they weren’t celebrated by me – not at the beginning of that year, anyway – because I really didn’t know who they were. But honey, by year’s end, what I didn’t know was how I had made it that far in life without them.

Alan taught me the essence of God and the metaphysical quintessence of Jesus Christ. Doreen taught me that I wasn’t crazy for believing in signs, angels and other mystical and ‘mythical’ beings. And Louise, well, Louise taught me love.

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In the Bible, God the Father and God the Son are noted several times as commanding those who believe to “love your neighbor as you love yourself“. As one who believed church to be a second home – as I was there all the time – I heard this commandment all the time as well.

But that doesn’t mean I followed it, and I didn’t, to be honest. I went to church religiously and was just as spiteful and unforgiving as I wanted to be. I tried to be nice to people and, really, I was – and am – a nice person. Nevertheless, despite my nicest efforts along with those times when I didn’t give a flying effort, there were just some “neighbors” who I believed were just too hard for me to love.

And so, because I couldn’t locate the loophole to this ‘impossible’ command to love, I eventually left the idea of church at the open door in hopes of opening a window to a world where love was always on my side.

Ha!

What I actually walked into was a brick wall of self-loathing, which was illuminated by my lack of self-love. Enter Louise…

“If you have had experiences in your life that are not comfortable, on some level, they’re mirrors of you. We don’t always like to hear that, but everything in our life is a mirror of us. So if something’s happening out there that’s not comfortable, we have to look inside and say ‘How are we creating it?’ ‘What is it about me or what is it within me that believes that I deserve this experience?’ ‘Cause otherwise, we wouldn’t bring it to us. So, perhaps, I would say a little more loving yourself would help because when you get that flowing, you won’t bring in uncomfortable experiences.”

~Louise Hay on “Receiving Prosperity”

In my errant search for a loophole to Universal love, I stumbled upon the wisdom of Louise Hay and was thrown for a loop. When I finally came to, I saw that the bitterness I felt toward my ‘unloveable’ neighbors was really just a reflection of how bitterly I viewed myself. Moreover, I learned that my lack of love for others was in direct response to a lack of love within me for me.

Well, in the years since first stepping foot into Alan’s, Doreen’s, and Louise’s classrooms, I’ve had plenty of occasions to put this theory to the test. Upon concluding each experiment, I’ve confirmed that while it can be trippy, it’s always true: Only love for ourselves equals love for others, not vice versa.

This consistent result has since resulted in my constant use of affirmations–a domain in which many ‘New Thinkers’ deem Louise its queen. Though I, too, hold Louise in this high regard, I admittedly regard my paraphrased version of Alan’s definition of an affirmation as my favorite:

An affirmation is a statement about yourself that just reminds you of who you are.

In other words, an affirmation isn’t aspirational, it’s actual. Of course, an affirmation that states “I spend money wisely…I always have what I need” can seem a little far-fetched when we seem to have only a little amount of money to spend. But if we can suspend our belief in what we seem to see long enough to really remember that the Source of our abundance is infinite and owns “the cattle on a thousand hills“, then we will really start to see that abundance materialize in our lives. (Amen to that.)

And amen to the teachings of Alan, Doreen, and Louise, which have all had such profound impacts on my life. As good teachers do, their teachings have also taught me to prize the profundity within. So, I bring this post to a close with five of my personal affirmations that I use to remind me of who I am.

1. “I am a sexual being. I fully embrace and express my sexuality in ways that are fully aligned with my Higher self. I am free from sexual guilt and shame. My sexuality is a gift from God and I love, cherish and enjoy my God-given sexuality. And so it is, in Jesus’s name, amen💖”

2. “I am abundant in all areas of my life. I trust God easily and follow where He leads me. I fully trust God to take care of me, my finances, my material needs and wants. I am rich in love, peace, beauty, and emotional strength. And so it is, in Jesus’s name, amen💖”

3. “I am healed. My mind and my body are at ease. I am free from all distressing thoughts and my body is free from all forms of distress. I love my body and my body loves me back. I love my mind and my mind loves me back. My mind and my body are united as one in love. And so it is, in Jesus’s name, amen💖”

4. “I am whole. I lack nothing. Everything that God says I am, I am. Everything that God has for me is mine. I am a child of the King. Only good is my inheritance. I walk in God’s goodness now and I see it everywhere I go. And so it is, in Jesus’s name, amen💖”

5. “I am pure and as innocent as the day I was born. My purity is not earned, it is already mine. I am light in the darkness. I am warmth in the coldness. I am love in the midst of fear. I am kindred with God. I bless others and receive others’ blessings. And so it is, in Jesus’s name, amen💖”

 

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Don’t quit your day job…unless God tells you to

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by Stephanie Rochelle Redd

With trust comes knowing and not knowing.

I know in whom I trust – no doubt, that is God – but I do doubt how well the things I trust Him with will turn out. I mean, I know they’ll turn out for my good; Romans 8:28 tells me that. I just don’t know what God’s idea of “good” looks like when what I’m feeling as I’m ‘trusting’ Him does not feel good to me.

Of course, now that I’ve written that, it appears ridiculous to me that I am not only comparing my and God’s ideas of good but, actually, second-guessing the goodness of God. However, as ridiculous as that may be, I do it more times than I care to admit, especially when it comes to my idea of money.

When God told me to quit my job last year and set sail on SS Entrepreneurship, I thought that meant He would provide for me, mainly, by providing me with a lot of money. (Besides my fantasies of luxuries, the fact is that I live on Maui, and there’s nothing fictitious about this island’s cost of living.) But don’t get me wrong, “all I have needed, Thy hand hath provided…just not in the way I hath expected.

God fed Elijah with the use of ravens. God has fed me with the use of food stamps.

Jesus said that He would prepare a place for me in His Father’s house, which contains many mansions. To date – and for two years – I’ve dwelt in a neatly-prepared bunk…in a dorm…in a hostel. (Albeit, a pleasant hostel.)

God said “Honor your father and your mother, that your days may be long upon the land which the Lord your God is giving you.” Y’all, the only reason that I’ve made it this long upon this (is)land is because of my honorable father and mother and the financial support which they’ve given me.

Now, let’s review:
Have I gone hungry? No.
Have I gone without shelter? No.
Have I gone broke? Close, but no.

When I feel worn and weary, and wonder whether or not I heard God correctly, these are questions I ask myself to help me put God’s goodness in my life in perspective. Here are some others:

Do you have a family that loves you? Yes.
Do you have friends that love you like family? Yes.
Do you have a vehicle and daily access to a hot shower and Netflix? YES.

Man, I’m starting to feel better already. While I know – in my head – that gratitude is an important ingredient in manifesting God’s promises, it can be hard for me to be grateful – in my heart – about what I have when I’m so focused on what I’m without. (Well that’s an epiphany if I ever wrote one. )

So, to round out this epiphanic post – it’s a word, I checked – here’s something else for me and you to ponder when we consider God’s promise to provide His goodness, in various forms, in our lives:

“God is not a man, that He should lie,
Nor a son of man, that He should repent.
Has He said, and will He not do?
Or has He spoken, and will He not make it good?”
~Numbers 23:19, NKJV

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Late bloomers rejoice!

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by Stephanie Rochelle Redd

I love a good underdog story.

Whether it’s the Philadelphia Eagles flying high in the Super Bowl or the Houston Astros soaring to victory in the World Series, you can generally find me cheering in the corner of the one who’s been counted out. That’s why – in case you were looking – you could’ve found me at the ProArts Theater on Maui a couple nights ago, championing the greatest underdog of all time–Charlie Brown.

 

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Growing up, I was hooked on primarily three things: Oreos, chocolate milk, and movies about Charlie Brown and the Peanuts gang. Every weekend, my parents would take me to the video store to rent movies…on VHS tapes. (Yes, Millennials, it’s true.) And every weekend, I’d choose movies from Charles Schulz’s vast array of Charlie Brown’s misadventures.

There was something about Charlie Brown with which I identified. Or maybe it was Lucy and her self-assured and self-obsessed attitude that I detested yet somewhat admired that struck a chord with me. Or maybe it was Linus and his way of positing thought-provoking philosophies while posing firmly with his blankie that held my attention. Or maybe it was Sally and her unbridled passion for Linus which she expressed again and again and again that I, as a kid, gagged over but I, as a romantic, fell head over heels for that caught my fancy.

Nope. It was Charlie Brown.

Whether we’d like to admit it or not, we’ve all felt like Charlie Brown at some point(s) in our lives–or, for much of our lives. Counted out of the in-crowd. Cast down by the higher-ups. Bullied, belittled and bested by ‘the best’. We all know what it feels like to be an underdog. So, too, we all have the opportunity to rise.

No, we may never win a Super Bowl or a World Series championship, but we can win the game of life by simply being the best versions of ourselves. That doesn’t mean to strive for ‘perfection’ though; it means to strive for truth.

“The truth is the mirror that never breaks. We can hold it up to anything or anyone and it will always reveal itself. Our individual truths are reflections of this universal truth; they embody the same principle, just in different frames to meet our individual specifications.” ~ Chapter 2: “Self-Compassion”, Part 3: How to Love Yourself by Stephanie Rochelle Redd

We are guaranteed winners when we are being our true selves, as God created and intended us to be. Talking with truth from our hearts. Walking in truth with our faith. Seeing ourselves and others as we and they truly are with the loving eyes of God. This is better than Wheaties for breakfast, folks. Living in truth is the life of champions!

While it took the Peanuts crew about two hours – plus intermission – to see through Charlie Brown’s shortcomings and value the truth of his goodness, we don’t have to wait that long, nor do we need others’ validation. We can choose, right now, to see our own true goodness – in all its unique glory – and talk it and walk it in ways that only we uniquely can.

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Food–it’s an honor

Power

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by Stephanie Rochelle Redd

Not to brag, but my vehicle is a high-quality brand. I noted this again the other day as I pulled into my favorite gas station – i.e. the cheapest gas station nearest me – to fill up my tank.

While I am price-conscious, I am also conscious of valuing value. That’s why, despite my high interest in low prices, I still fill up my gas tank with the highest grade of fuel.

Nowadays, I hold the same high-grade philosophy toward my body’s fuel–food. However, this wasn’t always the case. It took the Divine, numerous times, to intervene and direct my dining habits Higher.

Some people have prayer closets in which they seek God’s voice; I have prayer cards, two decks, in fact.

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The two cards on the left are part of Doreen Virtue’s “Magical Messages from the Fairies Oracle Cards” deck and the one on the right is from her “Angel Therapy Oracle Cards”.

In any case, all three cards gave me a mighty fright when I began pulling them repeatedly about two years ago.

“NOOOOOOOOO!!!”

That was my repeated response to their Higher guidance.

In a past decade, I was a vegetarian for approximately six years. Moreover, I was a well-intentioned but naïve college student for much of said decade; so, suffice to say, I was a naïve vegetarian as well.

Potato chips? Check.
French fries? Check.
Refined sweets and cheese galore? Double check.
Actual fruits, vegetables, and whole grains that didn’t come in aluminum, plastic, or Styrofoam containers? (((Crickets)))

Not only was my view of vegetarianism askew, but my health, as a result, was too. Therefore, when I got the Supernatural call to eat on a Higher plane a couple years ago, naturally, my mind revisited my past wayward attempt and I immediately hung up the phone. Not to mention that my intention for originally traveling that wayward way was for a guy. (Please send Gloria Steinem my regrets.)

So, how is it that nearly a decade later I am a happy, informed, feminist, plant-based vegan and have been for 10 months? Well, there are only so many times that you can hang up on God before you begin sensing the threat of a real disconnection–you know what I mean?

After the umpteenth time of receiving the Higher eating-call circa January 2017, I finally answered it in the affirmative. God, through my cards, promised me greater power in my life if I surrendered to His power in my life through my diet, or my “live-it” as I now like to call it.

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Though I accepted the call in one day, I didn’t make the powerful change from flesh to fresh overnight. It took time – a lot of it – blocked into several stages: Pescatarian; vegetarian; junk-food vegan; and finally, plant-based, gluten-free, no-salt vegan.

And I have to tell you that I feel more powerful now than I ever have before. Of course, it’s not my personal power that’s driving me but the power of God vested in me via veggies, fruits and other natural delights, especially the delight of His powerful love coursing through my digestive tract and my heart.

“And He took bread, gave thanks and broke it, and gave it to them, saying, ‘This is My body which is given for you; do this in remembrance of Me.” ~Luke 22:19, NKJV

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